Written by Samantha
A sad goodbye that has flourished a new beginning. A chapter that began with fear and closed with love. I never questioned if I belonged here. I was accepted with open arms, big smiles and kind eyes. I never imagined I’d have the opportunity to come to Nepal and now I believe this was always in the cards for me.
My host father Mani Ratna and my host mother Manjali run a gold jewelry shop. Selling beautiful necklaces, earrings, and rings. I found a beautiful necklace that I would’ve loved to buy but it was 130,000 rupees. Unfortunately that was way over my budget so I will return in 5 years or so and buy that beautiful necklace. I already have it settled with my host father.
My Hajuraamaa would always greet me with a smile. She knew absolutely no English and I am no expert at Nepali but Namaste felt like home. She is 85 years old and is of hard hearing, so our namastes always felt like yelling matches. Still, it was always worth seeing her smile. On my last night with the family she gifted me a beautiful hand knitted bag she spent a whole day making just for me. My Hajuraamaa made me miss my Mami back home. Sharing the same memory of when I’d go visit my Mami and simply seeing her smile off of a single “hola”. It was literally just like home.
Aunt Laxmi also lived with us. I found out that she’s deaf and mute but that didn’t stand in the way of us communicating. I would tell her she looked pretty or that her glasses looked cool based on just expressions and signs. Laxmi wasn’t taught sign language. Her signs are typically her pointing at something or trying to express something she was feeling. With her I learned that words aren’t necessary to communicate. That emotions are felt through the heart, seen through the eyes, and met through the kindness of a smile. Laxmi taught me that the world doesn’t have to be lonely. Even in silence, even without words, emotion can be felt and shown.
My host brother Sambhav. He reminds me so much of my brother Angelo back home. Shy and reserved. Sometimes the brightest people shine the least because they dont believe their light is enough to illuminate their darkest places. Sambhav and Angelo both dim their light, not because they cant shine but because they dont believe its possible for them. Sambhav made me miss Angelo everyday.
At first, id joke and think, “well maybe Sambhav doesn’t like me. He never speaks to me” and then slowly but surely Sambhav and I would laugh and joke together. Sambhav, Mani, and I worked on a 500+ piece puzzle of The Multhnomah Falls and finished it after 5-6 days. I think its safe to say Sambhav and I are friends. Sambhav reminded me that Angelo does love me even if he feels distant and away, we are still brother and sister.
My host mom Manjali took me to a tailor to buy some Lehengas. It was a nice and quite stressful experience. Mila, my host sister joined us as well. My favorite colors are pahelo (yellow) and Suntale (orange). I ended up getting a yellow/sunset colored Lehenga and one golden/light yellow Lehenga. When they were done I tried them on for Mila and Manjali. I can remember Manjali looking at me and saying, “You look like a Queen.” I remember feeling so seen.
On my last night with the family Manjali gifted me a beautiful yellow scarf with red and blue patterns. She looked at me and said, “Yellow… Your favorite color.” I cried. They weren’t tears of sadness. They weren’t tears of joy. My tears were of appreciation. My tears spoke from my heart. A heart that got reminded to keep beating. A heart that got shown that love and kindness is universal and not limited. It’s given and vast. It’s translated in gestures, gifts, quality time and most importantly through the eyes.
Mila, my amazing and beautiful host sister. Someone that from day 1 reminded me to not be afraid. Someone that would remind me that I’m strong, beautiful and talented. We gossiped and laughed so much about everything and anything. We had dance parties, makeup sessions, and believe it or not when we were in the mood to cry we’d watch sad movies like the fault in our stars.
She had become my bestfriend. My person. I have never had a sister. It’s always been my 3 brothers and I. I’d always say that if I had a sister I wouldn’t know what to do or how to play but Mila showed me something. She showed me how fulfilling and fun having a sister could be. Having someone who understands you. Someone that sees through the same lens and can hold the same experience even if it’s felt in different ways.
On the last day with my family Mila cried. Begging me to come back before I leave Nepal to go home. Through her eyes I could feel the pain in her tears. The yearning for just one more tomorrow. I was more happy than sad that day. Not only did I gain another family. I gained a sister. Something I didn’t have before but now know I needed.
This beautiful Newari family has gained a new daughter. A new sister. This Newari family has taken a piece of my heart and shaped it into a new home. In the beginning I said, “This chapter closed with love”, but the truth is, this ending isn’t finished. In my heart I know we will meet again.
Sapana
Samantha Leyva Gonzalez